How to Become an Ideal Gentleman

They say that chivalry is dead, but I beg to differ. Gentlemen are still around in large numbers, but they have both adapted to modern life and have chosen to withdraw from certain social circles that they know aren’t conducive to gentlemanly affairs.

The modern gentleman need not a three piece suit or a six figure salary, a gentleman is predicated upon his strength of character and not his strength of wallet. If you truly need to narrow down what a gentleman is, or what a gentleman should be, think of the exact opposite of someone who has it all wrong in life. Someone who lies, cheats, steals, and only thinks of themselves? Reverse that and you have just a few traits of the ideal gentleman. There’s a lot more to it than that though, let me explain:

To a gentleman, nobody is above or below him

A gentleman treats all who come into his path with a base level of respect that they can then either improve or worsen depending on their next moves. The gentleman does not scoff at the beggar or snap at the waiter, nor does he let himself be pushed around by those of perceived higher status than him. He is confident in himself and his abilities and doesn’t need validation from above or to demean those he perceives to be “lesser than” he is.

A gentleman is always presentable

You never know who you are going to run in to when you leave the house. It could be a family member, a friend, an employer, or even the future love of your life. A true gentleman leaves the house each and every day as if he would be buried in his condition. This isn’t meant as a tip to overdress for every occasion, as in fact, that is the opposite of presentable if you are overdressed.

A gentleman will take every step to make sure his hygiene and clothing is up to par, and tops off his look with carefully crafted accessories from Trendhim.com, which shows off his individuality making a well rounded and presentable image of himself. While the beanied and disheveled man can have some qualities of a gentleman, he cannot achieve ideal gentleman status.

A gentleman thinks about others around him as well as himself

Selfishness is hardly a quality that can describe the ideal gentleman. A gentleman is considerate, from the smallest things like leaving one last drink of orange juice in the jug for the bigger things like giving up his seat to the elderly or a pregnant woman on a bus.

An ideal gentleman rights injustice where he sees it, he doesn’t allow the disadvantaged to be roughed up or be treated differently because of their status. In the end, being a gentleman is all about your effect on yourself and the people around you.

There’s way more to being a gentleman than I could ever hope to cover in a single list, but hopefully these points help illustrate the greater picture of what an ideal gentleman should be like. A man who’s in control of his own destiny and ultimately makes the world a much better place with his presence, yet does so in a humble and refined manner. Gentlemen aren’t extinct, they’ve simply evolved.